Maybe I am a naive and fragile soul, maybe I’m a soppy div, who knows? But recently I have become really disheartened with me dear old friend Twitter.
Being a mildly neurotic mum of three who works her but off 24 hours a day, as you can imagine I have very little time for socialising and depending on my day can find it very difficult. I’m a hider! If things aren’t good rather than tell people I hide, seem to have this strange belief that I must only be ecstatically happy when I’m around others?? But that’s my crazy brain, back to Twitter.
So knowing this about me you can know see why I LOVE Twitter. I am able to have a life, I can be funny, serious, topical and sociable all without leaving my house and organising babysitters. Since the birth of my third child it has been a lifeline!
Recently however I have started to see that nasty side of Twitter, not by people I follow just through retweets and seeing thing said to lovely people I follow. It makes me feel really sad. Some of the things I seen have been uncalled for and downright nasty. It makes me sad for society, how have we become so careless with how we treat each other? Then that got me thinking, have we?
I think the problem with social media as a whole is we don’t see real people when we scroll down our timelines, we see avatars, characters, scapegoats for our own problems and this is where the problem originates. I’m pretty sure that if some of these people where in a room with each other talking, then the things said on twitter would not be said aloud!
Take the last time you felt angry and annoyed by someone’s opinion (in real life) what did you say? Did you speak your mind? Did you smile and nod, then swear later? I’m pretty sure even if you did speak your mind, you used courtesy and polite language to voice your opinion. I bet you thought in your head something sharp and to the point to reply, you may have even called them a name or thought up an insult. But you don’t say it, you don’t because we are programmed as human beings to even when in disagreement to consider others feelings. Now imagine how that person with the differing opinion would feel/react if you were to say what you were thinking….
Well that’s social media! Speak first think later!
I am a very empathic person (not in a sci fi kinda way) I tend to put myself in others shoes a lot. I cry when I see bad things happen to others and often almost feel others pain. So you can imagine how I am on Twitter…
I see these arguments happening, insults being flung about and judgement being made and I want to scream. But being a soppy plonker I say nothing as I hate conflict. Instead I blog about it and hope I’m not alone…..
Do you feel the same?
Am I an over-sensitive twit? (be kind, I cry remember)
How does it make you feel when someone is unkind/judgemental about you on social media?